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sara garrett's avatar

While I haven’t experienced the hell of homophobia, your writing makes me feel it & the destruction it causes. I’m impressed that you were able to understand Chris’s father so well & explain him to us. Have things changed in that culture since then?

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Lawrence Eisenberg's avatar

Oh Joshua, what a heartbreaking story. I had no drama but I knew I was gay since early adolescence and didn’t come out till after my wife died when I was 50. I didn’t experience what you did , just the general sense of shame society somehow communicated. Take a look on YouTube to a Mike Wallace documentary from 1968 - The Homosexuals. I was 17 and it confirmed to me that being gay would lead to a sick, unhappy life. Mike Wallace said so. Terrible pressure and out 20 years now, I still struggle that I tried to lie to myself and everyone in my life.

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Teddy's avatar

Joshua - Glad that Canada played such an important part in your life. There are times when it is just as bad as the USA but I think most Canadians hope the nation serves as a counterpoint to America, in all the best ways.

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Joyce Reardon's avatar

Thank you for sharing. You are such a kind person. Please take care of Joshua

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Melvyn B Lewis's avatar

I loved your story. Many of us have similar. As you now know, we all need to be ourselves, for better or for worse.

I hope I meet you someday.

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